Maybe this is on purpose, we thought the focus should not be on the daughter but on her search and feelings for her mother. When we used I, the focus shifted to the daughter, the speaker. We actually read a paragraph together from page 23 of the paperback in its original second person voice and then I went back and read it as if it were written in first person, replacing the you's with I's.It is very technically difficult to do well. Every creative writing teacher I have ever had said to stay away from writing in the second person.Second person is from, for example, the daughter's perspective, but it is pointing you the reader back to someone else in this case, the mom.Second person is 'very Asian.' Using 'I' is too self centered.Here are some of the comments on the narration in general: It is hard to get used to and we began by address it up front. One of the most jarring things about this novel is that most of it is written in the second person voice.In fact, as you will see later, even though the mother is missing throughout the duration of the book, she is who we talked about most. All around people loved the mother and how the author portrayed her.Ambiguous because I enjoyed reading it but had a hard time connecting with any of the characters. A so-so voter started by saying she was more ambiguous then so-so on this book.There are questions at Lit Lovers but I have to say, this book pretty much discusses itself. You will never think of your mother the same way again after you read this book. Told through the piercing voices and urgent perspectives of a daughter, son, husband, and mother, Please Look After Mom is at once an authentic picture of contemporary life in Korea and a universal story of family love.

Please look after my mom